9 Principles of purposeful living..!

I read it somewhere..and thought of sharing it..!
[1] You should not worry, for worry is the most unproductive of all human activities.

Worry is a negative state of mind which deals with the same problem over and over again, yet nothing is solved.

[2] You should not be fearful, for most of the things we fear never come to pass.

Fear is the opposite of confidence. It is also another negative emotion where it deals with uncertainty and loses heart easily. How can one win when one feels defeated even before the game has started?

[3] You should not cross bridges before you get to them, for no one yet has succeeded in accomplishing this. Deal with each problem as it comes, you can handle only one at a time anyway.

Let God's will be done, not ours. What will happen will happen for a good cause. One cannot deal with unseen problems though one can learn to troubleshoot.

[4] You should not take problems to bed with you for they make very poor bedfellows.

Problems are not solved when one go to sleep, be rested proper to have our energies and spirits renewed to stand tall to face all challenges the next day..

[5] You should not borrow other people's problems. They can take better care of them than you can.

There are numerous other people's problems beyond one's expectations and understandings. Learn to tackle our own problems before giving a hand to others. Solve our own problems before minding other people's problems.

[6] You should not try to relive yesterday for good or bad... it has already gone! Concentrate on what is happening in your life today.

There is no use crying over spilt milk. Be geared towards moving a step at a time. 'Yesterday was a cancelled check, tomorrow is a promissory note, Today is ready cash, Use it to the fullest!' That was what people used to say.

[7] You should be a good listener, for only when you listen do you hear ideas different from your own. It is very hard to learn something new when you are talking.

We have a pair of ears but only one mouth. Be patient to speak before understanding. Our mouths serve us best when in accord with inner conscience where Truth dwells..

[8] You should not become bogged down by frustration, for 90 percent of it is rooted in self-pity, and it will only interfere with positive action.

Self-pity is the web that spins miseries and traps oneself with their 'self-dug-pits' or dungeons. Slithering snakes and crawling insects will be your friends while in the darkness of frustrations.

[9] You should count your blessings, never overlooking the small ones, for a lot of small blessings add up to a big one!

For every blessings known to you, there are hundreds more that you don't know. Have heart in all you do. Always be grateful in all we have. Gratitude is a virtue for all. Gratitude is a key to peace of mind and heart.

When one seeks to assuage the suffering of others, it is really one's own suffering that one mitigates the relief. When one direct one's attention to the inner-self, which is Truth, one will perceive the same Divinity to be present in all. Thus it makes up these 9 principles to live by.

Choosing not to react!

There was a time in my life when any tiny little incident would bring out strong reactions from me! I would react if a bunch of stupid illiterate fools did and said things which i particularly couldn't stand! Even though what they did or said didn't change anything..! People say its typical of teenagers..! Maybe it is..! But now I somehow don't feel the need to react! Now i decide what deserves my attention and demands a reaction! I have become more at peace with myself and others! I don't feel the need to tell people whats wrong with them! I don't get exasperated by them! I have chosen to ignore what i don't like and which doesn't affect me directly! I have learnt that my reactions won't change them..!They would achieve their purpose of spreading hatred if i start giving attention to them and then get affected enough to carry it forward! I guess its part of growing up! and i am glad that i am past that stage!

relationships..!

Every single person who knows me will agree that am not the kind who can be anybody's best friend..!nor can anybody claim to know me inside out..!I have a lot of friends..but my extent of interaction with my friends is limited to what other people have with their common acquaintances..!Its completely my fault that i haven't ever allowed anyone to come close enough to me!..I have created a shell around me..which keeps me away from all the wonderful people in my life..!i never trust anyone completely even if i have known the person for years..!something pulls me back..!actually i had a tendency to become very strongly attached to people i had met just a few days back..!i opened up very quickly to people..i would trust them completely..put all my faith into them..but somehow with time..when i started getting hurt after not seeing the same response in others i stopped responding completely..!i preferred being a loner..!viewing life from a distance..going with the flow of life but not getting completely involved in someone..or something..! i always managed to have a good time though..but i preferred to stay out of d muck..!it worked..!to a great extent..!but then i ended up having no one to count as a friend..!i mean a real friend..!someone who knew me..!my fears..my weaknesses..!someone who did not secretly revel in my insecurities..!its difficult to find someone like that..!especially for someone like me..!but then i think i found that someone..i have become much more satisfied with life..and myself..but then its not possible that even in the most perfect of relationships there is no gap to be filled..!distances to be covered..!i still feel a disconnect sometimes..i feel lonely..mainly stems from my unreasonable expectations..but then how are emotions managed..?i don't know..!am still looking for ways to stay happy without any stimulus..!my biggest enemy right now is free time..i can't handle being idle..!i don't know why but it brings the worst out of me..!every passing problem..unresolved issues seem magnified manifold..!if you know a mantra to be happy with what you have then please tell me..!it will be appreciated..!
p.s..don't come up with suggestions like don't let yourself get idle..!